Loss. It’s what I am feeling at the moment. Loss of value, loss of colleagues, loss of friends and loss of family.
Loss.
I am however completely wrong, of course. I haven’t lost anything. Not a single thing.
No one is gone from my life. No talent I had before now has trickled away. I haven’t lost any friends and my family is 100% intact. In fact, I haven’t lost a thing.
Last night, Fred, the cat in my photo above, moved to Grey Lynn. I hear he’s holding his own, marking out his place in the pet-dom hierarchy. I shed a wee tear (naturally), but Fred’s OK. And so am I.
Which brings me to my point. The “loss” that I believe myself to be feeling is actually, in tactical terms, an expansion of my world. The colleagues I have “lost” are making their way in Auckland, the UK, the US, Oz and the world. My tentacle-acular connection to them has stretched right across the globe in every direction and reaches right back to me.
Added to that, I have the luxury of social media and am able to see, hear and feel them every day.
The people I left behind in London, Brighton, Devon, Ireland and Scotland are still there, being the talented, savvy, smart people they always were. Only better. And they’re only a couple of flights and an adventurous stop-over away.
The jewels of my life who live in Hawke’s Bay, Ruapehu, Perth, Sydney, Melbourne, Singapore, Bath, London, LA, San Francisco, New York and beyond are padding down the grass ready for me to pitch up with my tent. And there’s not a single thing stopping me from joining them.
As for loss experienced through death… I have decided not to go there. Aside from saying that for me, the immediacy and overwhelming grief of loss evolves over time to expand the mind and heart, and to connect the soul to an infinite belief system. But as I say, I am not going there. I have my beliefs and I respect yours.
So… my world has expanded lately. What about yours?
WHAT I SHOULD COULD HAVE DONE TONIGHT (no more “SHOULDs”)
- Phoned my mother
- Helped my neighbour move boxes (soooo wasn’t going to happen)
WHAT I DID TONIGHT
- Had the BEST BodyJam class of my life (I’ve only been going six months, so hey…)
- Made a weird salad with iceberg lettuce, salmon and cream cheese
- Popped into Linkedin
- Reminded myself that when I point my judgy finger at someone, four fingers are pointing back at me
Join me on my trip to freedom. RIP Rin, three years this Sunday. Always missed and probably laughing at me not with me. And happy night all ♥
xx